{"id":18366,"date":"2019-10-21T10:34:07","date_gmt":"2019-10-21T14:34:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/?p=18366"},"modified":"2019-10-21T10:34:07","modified_gmt":"2019-10-21T14:34:07","slug":"diversity-and-communion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/?p=18366","title":{"rendered":"Diversity and Communion"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gender and Sexuality<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/diversity-and-communion-2019-10-21\/\"><strong>Diversity and Communion<\/strong><\/a><br>\n<strong>Monday, October 21, 2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/TrBOfP8lTSM\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n<p>God is clearly more comfortable with diversity than we are, and God\u2019s final goal and objective are much simpler. God and the entire cosmos are about two things: <em>differentiation<\/em> (people and things becoming themselves) and <em>communion <\/em>(living in supportive coexistence). Physicists and biologists seem to know this better than theologians and clergy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The arguments of homophobic or anti-gay folks might seem well-supported, but their goals and objectives seem to be different from those of God or Jesus. Their arguments generally have to do with very secular concerns: control over chaos, majority rule, fear of the other, fear of the unknown, and idealization of a family unit that Jesus himself neither lived nor idealized. Check the Gospels if you don\u2019t believe me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, I do realize that we are dealing with incredibly deep archetypes, those electric sexual images that motivate us at the most intimate levels of our being. Such \u201ctotems and taboos\u201d have a deep hold on every culture and every individual, but they do change over time. We have learned so much over the last thirty years about the biological and psychological complexity of sexual orientation and desire, as well as gender constructs. National Geographic, which is no light-weight magazine, devoted its entire January 2017 issue just to gender! We in the West have been stuck in a dualistic trap other cultures have not struggled with to the same extent. For example, the Navajo or Din\u00e9 and other Native peoples have historically honored non-binary, or two-spirit, people instead of rejecting them or criminalizing their existence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a general rule, I would say that <em>institutional religion tends to think of people as very simple, and therefore the law must be very complex to protect them in every situation. Jesus does the opposite: He treats people as very complex\u2014different in religion, lifestyle, virtue, temperament, and success\u2014and keeps the law very simple in order to bring them to God: <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A legal expert put him to the test: \u201cTeacher, which commandment in the Law is the greatest?\u201d He replied to him, \u201c\u2019You are to love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your mind.\u2019 This is the first and foremost, and the second is like it: \u2018You are to love your neighbor as yourself.\u2019 On these two commandments hangs everything in the Law and in the Prophets\u201d (Matthew 22:35-40).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If I were to say this apart from Jesus\u2019 authority, you would rightly accuse me of being simplistic, na\u00efve, and reductionistic. Yet Jesus\u2019 approach takes the risk of allowing people the freedom to be themselves and to love God according to the shape of their own heart, soul, body, and mind! Religion developed for the sake of social control, but Jesus does not give us much grist for the social control mill. For Jesus, it is all about union\u2014union with God, others, and <em>what is, <\/em>however it presents itself. Do not let the labels trip you up\u2014woman, man, transgender, cisgender, straight, bisexual, gay, queer. We all belong, but how cleverly our moral pretenses prevent us from struggling with what is right in front of us! How ingeniously our ego protects itself from compassion and understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jesus, like the cosmos itself, constantly affirms two parallel drives <em>toward diversity and toward communion. <\/em>The whole of creation cannot be lying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gender and Sexuality<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/wide-eyed-seeing-2019-10-20\/\"><strong>Wide-Eyed Seeing<\/strong><\/a><br>\n<strong>Sunday, October 20, 2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I know that many Daily Meditations readers are my age\u2014or almost (I\u2019m 76 now)\u2014and come from traditional religious backgrounds, so I want to recognize that this week on Gender and Sexuality may challenge what we were taught about what it means to be human, made in the image and likeness of God. While younger generations are more comfortable talking about a spectrum of gender identities and sexual orientations, most of us born before 1960 were taught that there were only two genders, male and female, and only one acceptable sexual orientation: \u201cstraight.\u201d So, I want to start by inviting you to receive these reflections through the lens of contemplation. This week is a good test case for one\u2019s ability to think in a nondual way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Contemplation is a kind of seeing that is much more than mere looking because it also includes <em>recognizing <\/em>and thus <em>appreciating. <\/em>The contemplative mind does not tell us <em>what <\/em>to see but teaches us <em>how <\/em>to see what we behold.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Contemplation allows us to see the truth of things in their wholeness. It is a mental discipline and gift that detaches us, even neurologically, from our addiction to our habitual ways of thinking and from our left brain, which likes to think it is in control. We stop believing our little binary mind\u2014which strips things down to two choices and then usually identifies with one of them\u2014and begin to recognize the inadequacy of that limited way of knowing reality. Relying solely on the binary mind is a recipe for superficiality. Only the contemplative, or the deeply intuitive, can start venturing out into much broader and more open-ended horizons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But how do we learn this contemplative mind, this deep, mysterious, and life-giving way of perceiving, of being with, reality? Why does it not come naturally to us? Actually, it does come <em>momentarily, <\/em>in states of great love and great suffering, but such wide-eyed seeing normally does not last. We return quickly to dualistic analysis and use our judgments to retake control. <em>A prayer practice\u2014contemplation\u2014is simply a way of maintaining the fruits of great love and great suffering over the long haul and in different situations. <\/em>And that takes a lot of practice\u2014in fact, our whole life becomes one continual practice. I am no exception. I began to practice contemplation in the 1970s and I have never stopped, but more than forty years later, I find my binary mind is usually still the first to the table, ready to deliver a quick judgment and decision!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To begin to see with new eyes, we must observe\u2014and usually be humiliated by\u2014the habitual way we encounter each and every moment. It is humiliating because we will see that we are well-practiced in just a few predictable responses. Few of our responses are original, fresh, or naturally respectful of what is right in front of us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The most common human responses to a new moment, or something that does not fit neatly into one of our dualistic categories such as male or female, gay or straight, are mistrust, cynicism, fear, knee-jerk reactions, a spirit of dismissal, and overriding judgmentalism. It is so <em>dis-couraging <\/em>when we have the <em>courage<\/em> to finally see that these habits are the common ways that the ego tries to be in control of the data instead of allowing the moment to get some control over us\u2014and teach us something new!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Reverend Elizabeth Edman, an openly queer [1] priest in the Episcopal Church, focuses in her book <em>Queer Virtue <\/em>on \u201c\u2018authentic Christianity\u2019 as a spiritual journey that prioritizes the ancient Christian impulse to rupture simplistic binaries, especially those pertaining to the relationship between Self and Other.\u201d [2] Edman\u2019s book doesn\u2019t focus on issues of sexual morality but on all the cultural and religious boundaries Jesus transgressed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With all the changing ways of understanding gender and sexuality, most of us truly need contemplative eyes and the guidance of the Holy Spirit to \u201crupture simplistic binaries\u201d and be compassionate and respectful of difference and diversity. It clearly seems that God is quite comfortable with immense diversity.&nbsp; We have a much harder time with it, preferring uniformity and conformity instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ways of Knowing<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/ways-of-knowing-weekly-summary-2019-10-19\/\"><strong>Summary: Sunday, October 13\u2014Friday, October 18, 2019<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Contemplation is meeting as much reality as we can handle in its most simple and immediate form\u2014without filters, judgments, or commentaries. (<a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/doing-the-homework-2019-10-13\/?utm_source=cac.org&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=dm&amp;utm_content=summary\">Sunday<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Head and heart, rational and spiritual, need not stifle or silence one another.<\/em> \u2014Maria S. Guarino (<a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/coexistence-beliefs-and-experience-2019-10-14\/?utm_source=cac.org&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=dm&amp;utm_content=summary\">Monday<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>This means engaging in dialogue with the Bible\u2014bringing our questions to it, hearing its questions to us, examining our answers in its light, and taking its answers very seriously, particularly when they conflict with our own, which will be most of the time.<\/em> \u2014Robert McAfee Brown (<a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/a-strange-new-world-2019-10-15\/?utm_source=cac.org&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=dm&amp;utm_content=summary\">Tuesday<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>What does it mean to \u201cknow God\u201d? Who are the ones who know God? <\/em>\u2014Robert McAfee Brown (<a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/to-know-god-2019-10-16\/?utm_source=cac.org&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=dm&amp;utm_content=summary\">Wednesday<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>You cannot believe in or practice unitive consciousness as long as you exclude and marginalize others\u2014whether it is women or people of different sexual orientations or people of religious or ethnic minorities or, in my experience, people with intellectual disabilities<\/em>. \u2014Tim Shriver (<a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/to-love-unconditionally-2019-10-17\/?utm_source=cac.org&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=dm&amp;utm_content=summary\">Thursday<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>It came to me through senses unfamiliar, claiming me with a knowledge I did not know. That it was not within my rational understanding did not make it any less real.<\/em> \u2014Kent Nerburn (<a href=\"https:\/\/cac.org\/senses-unfamiliar-2019-10-18\/?utm_source=cac.org&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=dm&amp;utm_content=summary\">Friday<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Practice: Eating One Raisin: Mindful Eating<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Because the rubber of transformation meets the road in practice, in actual encounters with real life, I continue to encourage you to try something new: change sides, move outside your comfort zone, make some new contacts, let go of your usual role and attractive self-image, walk or take a bus instead of drive, make a friend from another race or class, visit new neighborhoods, go to the jail or to the border, attend another church service, etc. Without new experiences, new thinking is difficult and rare. After a new experience, new thinking and behavior comes naturally and even becomes necessary. [1]<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Today\u2019s practice, Eating One Raisin, encourages us to do something we have probably done hundreds of times but in a new way. It comes from <\/em>The Mindful Way Through Depression<em>:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mindfulness is not paying more attention but paying attention differently and more wisely\u2014with the whole mind and heart, using the full resources of the body and its senses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Holding<br>\n<\/em>First, take a [<em>single<\/em>] raisin and hold it in the palm of your hand or between your finger and thumb. Focusing on it, imagine that you\u2019ve . . . never seen an object like this before in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Seeing<br>\n<\/em>Take time to really see it; gaze at the raisin with care and full attention. Let your eyes explore every part of it, examining the highlights where the light shines, the darker hollows, the folds and ridges, and any asymmetries or unique features.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Touching<br>\n<\/em>Turn the raisin over between your fingers, exploring its texture, maybe with your eyes closed if that enhances your sense of touch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Smelling<br>\n<\/em>Holding the raisin beneath your nose, with each inhalation drink in any smell, aroma, or fragrance that may arise, noticing as you do this anything interesting that may be happening in your mouth or stomach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Placing<br>\n<\/em>Now slowly bring the raisin up to your lips, noticing how your hand and arm know exactly how and where to position it. Gently place the object in the mouth, without chewing, noticing how it gets into the mouth in the first place. Spend a few moments exploring the sensations of having it in your mouth, exploring it with your tongue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Tasting<br>\n<\/em>When you are ready, prepare to chew the raisin, noticing how and where it needs to be for chewing. Then, very consciously, take one or two bites into it and notice what happens in the aftermath, experiencing any waves of taste that emanate from it as you continue chewing. Without swallowing yet, notice the bare sensations of taste and texture in the mouth and how these may change over time, moment by moment, as well as any changes in the object itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Swallowing<br>\n<\/em>When you feel ready to swallow the raisin, see if you can first detect the intention to swallow as it comes up, so that even this is experienced consciously before you actually swallow the raisin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Following<br>\n<\/em>Finally, see if you can feel what is left of the raisin moving down into your stomach, and sense how the body as a whole is feeling after completing this exercise in mindful eating. [2]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gender and Sexuality Diversity and Communion Monday, October 21, 2019 God is clearly more comfortable with diversity than we are, and God\u2019s final goal and objective are much simpler. God and the entire cosmos are about two things: differentiation (people and things becoming themselves) and communion (living in supportive coexistence). 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