{"id":22436,"date":"2023-05-12T09:50:24","date_gmt":"2023-05-12T13:50:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/?p=22436"},"modified":"2023-05-12T09:54:57","modified_gmt":"2023-05-12T13:54:57","slug":"shame-is-an-outside-voice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/?p=22436","title":{"rendered":"Shame Is an Outside Voice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-embed-handler wp-block-embed-embed-handler wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Hillsong UNITED - Know You Will (Lyrics)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4qLrATB2XsE?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The voice of doubt, shame, and guilt blaring in our heads is not our voice. It is a voice we have been given by a society steeped in shame. It is the \u201coutside voice.\u201d Our authentic voice, our \u201cinside voice,\u201d is the voice of radical self-love!<\/strong> \u2014Sonya Renee Taylor, <em>The Body Is Not an Apology<\/em> &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>CAC teacher and psychotherapist Jim Finley explores how trauma causes us to internalize shame, which keeps us from living from our true identity in God.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This \u201cyou\u201d\u2014this internalized identity formed in trauma and abandonment\u2014you start taking on as identity. You start taking it on as if it has the power to name who you are, which is the shame-based identity. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s bad enough you had to go through the trauma, but what\u2019s worse is we\u2019re punitive with ourselves and \u2026 it creates the secrecy of a shame-based identity. One is afraid that if anyone would really see what I\u2019m really like inside, no one would love me. Do you know why? Because I see what I\u2019m really like and I don\u2019t love me. Do you know why? Because I\u2019ve internalized the fact [for example] that my parents didn\u2019t love me\u2026.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every trauma survivor knows the issue isn\u2019t what was done to me. The issue is what everything that was done to me <em>did to me<\/em> and that I\u2019ve internalized it. It\u2019s just endless, the things that hinder us from becoming the person deep down that we really are and long to be\u2026. <strong>In a sense, our real Higher Power is [often not God, but is instead] our shame-based belief that our shortcomings and faults and brokenness have the authority to name who we are. It\u2019s the idolatry of brokenness over the Love that loves us as invincibly precious in our brokenness.<\/strong> This is really the key to this whole thing. It isn\u2019t just that I\u2019m broken; I must also admit that <em>I believe I am what\u2019s wrong with me<\/em>\u2026. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>It\u2019s such a powerful experience to be in the presence of someone who sees our brokenness\u2014maybe because they live with us and it\u2019s obvious<\/strong>, or it\u2019s a therapist, or a friend, or at a recovery meeting\u2014and who sees through the brokenness to the invincible preciousness of our self in the midst of our brokenness. When we risk sharing what hurts the most in the presence of someone who will not invade us or abandon us, we can come upon within ourselves the pearl of great price, the invincible preciousness of ourselves in the midst of our brokenness. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Finley describes the healing impact that such an accepting presence can have for us:<\/em>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Through a person\u2019s unconditional positive regard for us, we can start to find our footing in an unconditional positive regard for ourselves<\/strong>. And that unconditional positive regard for ourselves is joining God in seeing who God knows us to be before the origins of the universe as invincibly precious, indestructible in God\u2019s eyes. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>____________________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sarah Young<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jesus, my Hope, Whenever I\u2019m tempted to indulge in self-pity or escape into unreality, trusting You wholeheartedly is my only hope. <strong>In the midst of adversity, I find it hard to think clearly and make wise choices. Sometimes it seems as if a dizzying array of choices is swirling around me\u2014waiting for me to grab on to the right one. But I know there is one choice that\u2019s always appropriate and effective: the decision to trust You with all my heart and mind.<\/strong> If I find myself sliding down into discouragement or self-pity, I can put on the brakes by declaring my trust in You\u2014whispering, speaking, even shouting it! <strong>As I think about the many reasons I have for being confident in You, I rejoice in Your unfailing Love. When I\u2019m feeling tempted to numb my pain by escaping into unreality, help me instead to come close to You\u2014<\/strong>expressing my confidence in You. This brings me into contact with ultimate Reality! I love confiding in You because You know everything about me and my circumstances. O Lord, You are infinitely wise and understanding. In Your encouraging Name, Amen <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>PROVERBS 3:5 AMPC; Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>PSALM 52:8; But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in the loving devotion of God forever and ever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>ROMANS 11:33; Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and[ a] knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Young, Sarah. Jesus Listens (p. 139). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The voice of doubt, shame, and guilt blaring in our heads is not our voice. It is a voice we have been given by a society steeped in shame. 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