{"id":22527,"date":"2023-06-20T09:34:23","date_gmt":"2023-06-20T13:34:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/?p=22527"},"modified":"2023-06-20T11:56:43","modified_gmt":"2023-06-20T15:56:43","slug":"22527","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/?p=22527","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-embed-handler wp-block-embed-embed-handler wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Cochren &amp; Co. - Running Home (Official Lyric Video)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/NK1AkCEHkZQ?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Grace of Aging<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Author Connie Zweig writes about shifting our emphasis from our \u201croles\u201d to our \u201csouls\u201d as we age, and how shadow-work allows us to discover a deeper identity:&nbsp;<\/em>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The shadow is our personal unconscious, that part of our mind that is behind or beneath our conscious awareness.\u2026 The <strong>shadow holds the key to removing the inner obstacles that block us from finding the treasures of late life.\u2026&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The shadow is like a darkroom in which our feelings, dreams, and images lie dormant. Shadow-work is like the process of development in which our feelings, dreams, and images come back to life.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the context of age, most of us learn that being independent, quick, productive, and strong are highly valued and result in rewards of approval and status. On the other hand, we learn that their opposite traits\u2014dependent, slow, unproductive, and weak\u2014are devalued and result in disapproval and shame. Naturally, we dread the loss of these socially acceptable traits as we age, slow down, do less, and need others more.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If our images of and associations with aging remain outside of our awareness, dormant in the darkroom, then \u2026 we don\u2019t even notice that we fail to notice them. Like my eighty-nine-year-old friend, who told me that he didn\u2019t want to be with \u201cold people\u201d because he wasn\u2019t like them, we deny our reality and reject a part of ourselves. Our physical, cognitive, and emotional changes carry a heavy burden of shame. But without that awareness, our opportunities are lost.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we learn how to establish a conscious relationship with those parts of ourselves that are outside of awareness, we can attune to our many inner voices and detect which can be guides for us now\u2014and which can sabotage our dreams. We can<strong> learn to slow down, turn within with curiosity, and open to what\u2019s calling to us without dismissing it\u2014and without being taken over by it. That\u2019s what I call \u201cromancing\u201d the shadow.<\/strong> [1]&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Father Richard acknowledges that the shadow work of moving beyond identification with our roles and personas takes a lifetime:&nbsp;<\/em>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m sorry to report that shadowboxing continues until the end of life, the <strong>only difference being that we\u2019re no longer surprised by our surprises or so totally humiliated by our humiliations! As we age, we come to expect various forms of half-heartedness, deceit, vanity, or illusion from ourselves. But now we can see through them, which destroys most of their game and power.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all identify with our persona so strongly when we are young that we become experts at denial and learn to eliminate or deny anything that doesn\u2019t support it. Our shadow self makes us all into hypocrites on some level, someone playing a role rather than being \u201creal.\u201d We\u2019re all in one kind of closet or another and are even encouraged by society to play our roles. <strong>Usually everybody else can see our shadow, so it is crucial that we learn what everybody else knows about us\u2014except us<\/strong>! [2]&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>[48] My Neighbor<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> A man must not choose his neighbor: he must take the neighbor that God sends him\u2026. The neighbor is just the <strong>man who is next to you at the moment<\/strong>, the man with whom any business has brought you into contact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lewis, C. S.. George MacDonald (p. 26). HarperCollins. 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