Giving Ourselves<\/strong><\/a>\nMonday, June 24, 2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n<p><em>Can you let others convert you to the Love that you truly are? <\/em><em>Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, in her book <\/em>Nurture the Wow<em>, asks:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is love, anyway? And what does it mean to love? . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The feminist theorist bell hooks . . . claims [that love is] the \u201cwill to extend one\u2019s self for the purpose of nurturing one\u2019s own or another\u2019s spiritual growth.\u201d [1] \u201cThe will to extend yourself\u201d: to push past your comfort level; to . . . work really hard. That means doing things you never thought you\u2019d do, and may not particularly want to. But you do them. You stretch and extend, because someone needs you to, so that they can grow. . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Extending the self is about the moment when the tantrum is going down right as you need to be getting somewhere and you realize you have to slow down and pull, from underneath your annoyance and your desire to just physically force the child out the door, some compassion to help dial down her out-of-control feeling. It\u2019s about the willingness to get out of bed at two a.m. to be with the child who\u2019s totally shaken by a nightmare. . . . It\u2019s about enabling our beloveds to feel secure, enabling them to be able to do the work they need to do. It\u2019s about enabling them to feel the warm rays of our attention on their skin, even when we kind of actually want to just zone out. . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Fred Rogers, the Presbyterian minister behind the TV show <em>Mr. Rogers\u2019 Neighborhood, <\/em>said once that \u201cto love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.\u201d [2] . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That moment when we say, I accept you\u2014even though being with you is awfully hard right now\u2014that\u2019s love. It doesn\u2019t mean there aren\u2019t consequences\u2014we don\u2019t have to accept terrible behavior. But part of how we love our children is in choosing, again and again, to take the whole child. . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If all our spiritual efforts are aimed at loving these people better\u2014well, that alone is and should be enough. And, as it happens, if we\u2019re able to go deep into that specific, aching love for these particular people, with <em>these<\/em> smiles and <em>that <\/em>laugh and <em>that <\/em>sweet face\u2014something else might happen as a natural consequence of it. Maybe, as our hearts overflow, we find that love can, naturally of its own accord, extend wider, until it encompasses caring for all things, and connection to everything\u2014until our love becomes Love itself, the very flow and force of the universe. <em>[This is what I mean by accessing the universal through the particular. \u2014Richard]<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Conscious Parenting Giving Ourselves Monday, June 24, 2019 Can you let others convert you to the Love that you truly are? Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, in her book Nurture the Wow, asks: What is love, anyway? And what does it mean to love? . . . The feminist theorist bell hooks . . . claims [that […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18127"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=18127"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18127\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18128,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18127\/revisions\/18128"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=18127"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=18127"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=18127"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
<\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n<p><em>Can you let others convert you to the Love that you truly are? <\/em><em>Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, in her book <\/em>Nurture the Wow<em>, asks:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is love, anyway? And what does it mean to love? . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The feminist theorist bell hooks . . . claims [that love is] the \u201cwill to extend one\u2019s self for the purpose of nurturing one\u2019s own or another\u2019s spiritual growth.\u201d [1] \u201cThe will to extend yourself\u201d: to push past your comfort level; to . . . work really hard. That means doing things you never thought you\u2019d do, and may not particularly want to. But you do them. You stretch and extend, because someone needs you to, so that they can grow. . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Extending the self is about the moment when the tantrum is going down right as you need to be getting somewhere and you realize you have to slow down and pull, from underneath your annoyance and your desire to just physically force the child out the door, some compassion to help dial down her out-of-control feeling. It\u2019s about the willingness to get out of bed at two a.m. to be with the child who\u2019s totally shaken by a nightmare. . . . It\u2019s about enabling our beloveds to feel secure, enabling them to be able to do the work they need to do. It\u2019s about enabling them to feel the warm rays of our attention on their skin, even when we kind of actually want to just zone out. . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Fred Rogers, the Presbyterian minister behind the TV show <em>Mr. Rogers\u2019 Neighborhood, <\/em>said once that \u201cto love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.\u201d [2] . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That moment when we say, I accept you\u2014even though being with you is awfully hard right now\u2014that\u2019s love. It doesn\u2019t mean there aren\u2019t consequences\u2014we don\u2019t have to accept terrible behavior. But part of how we love our children is in choosing, again and again, to take the whole child. . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If all our spiritual efforts are aimed at loving these people better\u2014well, that alone is and should be enough. And, as it happens, if we\u2019re able to go deep into that specific, aching love for these particular people, with <em>these<\/em> smiles and <em>that <\/em>laugh and <em>that <\/em>sweet face\u2014something else might happen as a natural consequence of it. Maybe, as our hearts overflow, we find that love can, naturally of its own accord, extend wider, until it encompasses caring for all things, and connection to everything\u2014until our love becomes Love itself, the very flow and force of the universe. <em>[This is what I mean by accessing the universal through the particular. \u2014Richard]<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Conscious Parenting Giving Ourselves Monday, June 24, 2019 Can you let others convert you to the Love that you truly are? Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, in her book Nurture the Wow, asks: What is love, anyway? And what does it mean to love? . . . The feminist theorist bell hooks . . . claims [that […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18127"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=18127"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18127\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18128,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18127\/revisions\/18128"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=18127"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=18127"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/co2mannatoday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=18127"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}