Women navigate the world through relationships. The relationships that are built by bringing together Muslim and Jewish women, who share so many practices and beliefs, are life-changing and can help put an end to anti-Muslim and anti-Jewish sentiment. We influence family, friends and the general public about our strength in coming together to build bridges and fight hate, negative stereotyping and prejudice. We are changing the world, one Muslim and one Jewish woman at a time!
—Sheryl Olitzky, Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom
While individuals often inspire us to action, communities working together also serve as catalysts to transform hearts and cultural narratives. Activist Sandhya Jha describes the powerful example of a group of Muslim and Jewish women in the United States:
Another beautiful way … relationship building has emerged is through the Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom, originally a group of 12 women in New Jersey that now has local chapters all over the country.…
After a visit to Poland in 2010 when [founding member] Sheryl [Olitzky] was struck by what hate had wrought in relationship to her Jewish community, she came back to the U.S. determined to make a contribution to reducing hate. She contacted an imam she knew who introduced her to Atiya Aftab, and the two women invited an additional five Jewish and five Muslim women to meet monthly. They are now a national organization with local chapters all over the country. While they talk about ending hatred one Muslim and one Jewish woman at a time, they actually recognize the power of community in effecting change.
Organizations focused on peacemaking and healing can create a ripple effect in our communities.
The local Kansas City chapter’s social action was to step in and provide meals at a local cancer treatment center during Christmas so that the Christian volunteers could spend the holiday with their families, creating another relational bridge in the process. [SOSS board member Amber Khan] also said there was something really powerful in the fact that in order to deal with anti-Semitism and Islamophobia, the women needed to confront the “isms” they had internalized about each other in order to be in true relationship with each other, and that has been some of the most powerful work she has witnessed.
What Amber values is that the women of the local chapters “are not professional organizers; they’re women who said, ‘my community needs healing and I want to be a part of that.’” When white nationalists desecrated mosques, the Jewish community showed up in force, sometimes even sharing worship spaces.
“I think there’s more of a sense of urgency,” says Aftab at the Sisterhood. “We’ve heard from people all over the country, even all over the world, saying, ‘I need to reach out and do something constructive rather than be affected by this fear in a negative way.’”
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John Chaffee 5 On Friday
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“Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.”
– Parker Palmer, Founder of the Center for Courage and Renewal
The question of identity is a perennial one. It is a question each person of each generation must answer.
“Who am I?”
It might be a part of the first half of life, but early on, we seem to announce our identity to other people. Some of us might even forcefully do so. Meanwhile, others may have no idea about their identity and desperately run after any other person or activity to tell them who they are. During different seasons of my life, I am sure I have pursued both frantic pursuits.
Identity is sometimes defined as something between action and intention, but there might be another option… It is another thing entirely to sit down, rest in the present moment, and allow the arc of our life to preach to us about who we are and who we are becoming.
2.
“The simple step of a courageous individual is not to take part in the lie.“
– Aleksander Solzhenitsyn, Russian Author and Nobel Prize Winner
To participate in a lie, while knowing it is a lie, is a diabolical choice.
If the truth sets us free, then it makes sense that untruths or lies can enslave us.
3.
“A strong nation, like a strong person, can afford to be gentle, firm, thoughtful, and restrained. It can afford to extend a helping hand to others. It’s a weak nation, like a weak person, that must behave with bluster and boasting and rashness and other signs of insecurity.“
– Jimmy Carter, 39th President of the United States
Carter was not appreciated during his presidential term, which is likely why he was a single-term president. However, in the years since, he proved himself in the public eye to be one of the more moral and compassionate politicians who put his hands to work building homes for the less privileged. As I have come across things about his life, I can’t help but think that he seemed to embody the best of the Christian ethic. It is not an easy or small task to live out the Sermon on the Mount, which seems to be at the forefront of Carter’s approach to life.
The proof is in the pudding.
Or, as some other ancient Carpenter said, “…A tree will be known by its fruit.” (Matthew 12:33)
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“Never confuse the person formed in the image of God with the evil that is in him because evil is but a chance misfortune, an illness, a devilish reverie. But the essence of the person is the image of God, and this remains in him despite every disfigurement.“
– St. John of Kronstadt, Eastern Orthodox Priest
In particular interpretations of Christianity, there is the presupposition or belief structure that anything that is not God is inherently evil. This train of thought has long roots that stretch back to Augustine in the 4th century who very well might have had OCD. Reflecting on his own wayward youth, Augustine postulated that to be human was to be deeply flawed.
The problem is that when our internal voice of condemnation is that strong or loud, we are prone to mistake it for the voice of God.
According to Genesis 1-2, nothing other than God was pronounced “evil.” Instead, everything else was pronounced “very good.”
It is not that we are intrinsically evil; it is that we have been misled or wounded by our own disordered loves and flawed decision-making.
Why is this an important distinction?
Because that which is broken can be mended, that which is wounded can be healed, that which has been misled can be redirected, and that which is lost can be found.
5.
“You cannot love and live as you want.“
– Thomas Merton, Trappist Monk and Author
This one hits hard and right in my selfishness.
During my sessions of Spiritual Direction with people, we often talk about how “our life is our curriculum.” Our life’s events are the lessons that were designed for us to learn how to be human, to learn how to love, how to forgive, how to be compassionate, etc.
I am unsure if I am passing or failing my life curriculum, but my life feels like a Divine IEP designed to systematically break down my worst traits.
It is not possible to love and to live on our own terms. To love others inherently means compromise and meeting people in the middle. It is not love if we do not allow other people’s lives to affect us if we do not allow ourselves to experience pain or suffering with or on behalf of others. To love others, we cannot constantly put up fences and keep doors locked. To love at all means to be open to not living life as WE want but recognizing that having the gift of love (given or received) is far grander than having life precisely as we want. To love others means to let down our invincible shields and triple-layered armor and meet people face to face.
If this whole thing called life is just a massive curriculum of love, we probably should put our best efforts into that schooling.